It sounds like there are a tangle of conflicts here and I empathize with what I think I hear in your question, which is that you are having feelings which are somehow “wrong” to have, which I imagine is very uncomfortable, even painful. There are also family ramifications here, as I would lose a lot of close relationships if word got out that I may be anything other than a straight-laced family man. I don't want to cheat on her, but I don't want to forever wonder what it's like to be with a man, either. If these feelings don't subside, is it reason enough for me to consider leaving my wife? I love her, and I'd want to stay if she could accept this about me, but I don't want to feel like I can't be myself when I am with her.

My wife is a strong conservative southern woman and would not accept this about me, so I have tucked this part of me away somewhere deep inside. I am still attracted to women, including my wife, but I am drawn to men in a way that makes me question whether I am at the very least bisexual. I don't really understand where these feelings are coming from or why they came on well after I thought my sexuality was established. Not entirely happily, though-for the past five years or so, I have developed an attraction for other men. I am a successful, 33-year-old man, and I have been married for about 12 years. How to Send Appointment Reminders that Work.Rules and Ethics of Online Therapy for Therapists.Practice Management Software for Therapists.